Kind treatment to parents vs. obedience to parents – Yasir Qazi
Obedience to parents versus kindness to parents. ”After searching for verses in the Quran on this subject, I found 9 verses on this subject that correspond to this subject. Finally, share all 9 relevant verses of the Quran. Will be:
I have heard preachers talk about obedience to parents as part of Islamic teachings. And there is no doubt that parental obedience is generally commendable. However, it is important to note that the basic term used in the Qur’an and Sunnah is not “obedience to parents” but “وَبَرًّا بِوَالِدَيْهِ” (treating one’s parents well).
This is very important, as most of the time, adult children do not comply with every request of the parents, even if it includes something unreasonable.
In fact, compassion for one’s parents is not the same as their obedience. One should do one’s best with compassion and respect at all times, but not everyone is bound to obey every command, especially if it includes the rights of others such as spouses and children, or if In order not to be directly related to the parents.
In general, parental obedience will be obligatory if what they are asking for is legitimate, and their personal well-being is required, and the person can easily (unnecessarily bother) fulfill that request (and Everyone will need to use their conscience and then respond to their level of ‘hardship’ and ‘reasonableness’ in the sight of Allah). However, if parents make a request that has nothing to do with their own benefit (for example, they ask their adult children to relinquish their career to someone else for no apparent reason). Choose), or make an unreasonable request (for example, to give a working son / daughter a full salary when he or she cannot live a reasonable life without it), obedience is not obligatory. Nevertheless, such requests from parents should be politely rejected and soft words should be used, according to the Qur’an, “… and walk with them with the best morals in the world.”
Ibn Daqiq al-Eid, a well-known Shafi’i jurist, said, “It is not obligatory for this (adult) child to listen to his parents in everything they ask him or forbid him – and this is from him. The consensus of the scholars. ”Al-Aqeem (2/296). And Ibn Taymiyyah stated three conditions for obedience: “Obedience to parents is obligatory if they order something that is not a sin, and it is beneficial for them, and the son has no difficulty in fulfilling it. do not have.” And al-Qarfi wrote, “Just as a child can harm or disturb a parent, so they are forbidden to harm or disturb a child.”